Living in the Moment


Earlier I mentioned that we tend to expect dogs to think like us. Dogs like most animals have a completely different relation to time than we do. DOGS LIVE IN THE MOMENT. I can’t stress enough how important it is for us to understand that. We should also learn from this, and worry less about the future and don’t clinch to unpleasant things from the past. Ultimately the moment is the only reality there is. Dogs don’t look into the future or think about it. They don’t regret the past or think about it. They certainly do re-act to experiences they had in the past, like, if a dog has been hit with a stick, he will fear any stick in the hand of a human, but when there is no stick around he won’t think of it. An abused person may constantly think about experiences, animals certainly don’t.

Again: Dogs only perceive the very moment. When we start to understand this, we will approach our dogs differently in situations where correcting is required. Your dog learns only in this very moment thru cause and effect. Which means that when your dog tears the garbage bag apart and you don’t notice it until later, the dog learned in this moment that this worked for him and he may repeat the act. There is no use correcting your dog, if you don’t catch it in the act. If on the other the hand you catch the dog in that moment and correct him with a firm “NO”( never scream, just firm voice) the dog will experience an immediate reaction to his action, and he will learn that what he did is not acceptable.

That is how your dog learns by cause and effect, in the moment. Please remember that no dog willingly miss-behaves, he tears the garbage apart because it contains something that smells great. Make sure to put the garbage in a place where the dog can’t get to it. Set up your house and yard so your dog won’t fail (“fail” in your human eyes).

We have to be aware that we can’t project our own emotions onto the dog. In our example your dog will not “regret” that it tor the garbage apart, or a beaten dog will not seek “revenge”. Even “jealousy” is debatable. Don’t we all love our Disney movies, but the way the animals are characterized screws up reality.

Here two more examples:

Example 1:

A dog steals a piece of meat from the counter but the owner doesn’t realize it right away until the dog lies down on its bed. If the dog gets punished now, just even with harsh words alone, it will think his human is unhappy with it because it has lain down—which will be very confusing for the dog. A dog has to be caught taking the meet, in order to show him that this is not acceptable. Again, all it takes is a firm “NO”. What in our eyes is steeling food, in the dogs mind is normal behaviour. To take whatever food comes available is normal survival behaviour for any animal. Same as with the garbage, make sure to set things up so your dog succeeds. Always make sure your dog can’t reach your food and teach your family about it.

Example 2:

Often people punish their dog for responding slowly or not at all when called. They do scold him once he finally came. To the dog this means that he is being scolded for actually coming to the owner. Every time your dog comes to you it needs to be praised, no matter if he is slow or late, because to the dog only that very moment when he comes to you counts. Call your dog once and only once and when she comes no matter when, praise or reward her. This might be against our nature, because if our child comes home late, we will talk to the child, and his or her late coming may have consequences. But this doesn’t work in the dog’s mind. Coming to you is always wanted behaviour and needs to be positively acknowledged, which is easiest done with a friendly voice like” good boy”. Coming to you has to be the best experience for your dog ever. I will talk more about this in the chapter “Recall”.

A word about punishments: punishing or correcting a dog is a state of mind. If your intention is to correct your dog, it will accept it or learn to accept it as such. But if your intention is to punish the dog, it will more likely have a traumatic impact. So always stay calm and correct with calmness, which is crucial to being successful in the relationship with your dog.

No dog should ever be punished, hit, locked away or chained up. They do not make the connection as to why they are locked or chained. Hitting a dog is cruel and unacceptable and can trigger fear and aggression, and with loud aggressive shouting all you are doing is displaying weakness and insecurity to the dog. If, for example, two dogs are growling at each other, and you shout at them aggressively, you might encourage a fight, because you may just fuel the aggression.

To live in the moment is a dog’s natural state of being. Spending time with them can definitely make our lives more positive. Think how entirely present they are, they can bring us to that state as well. I think one of the most beautiful things of a dog’s nature is, that they can look at you without judging you and with total acceptance. Yep, we can learn a lot from our fantastic furry companions.

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The Significance of Consistent Guidance for Dogs

 

Dogs and humans are very social beings. We are not meant to live solitary for a long period of time. As soon as a pack of dogs, or a group of people share a room, a social order starts to establish itself. Social order means that there are leaders and followers, and there are stronger and weaker individuals. In general, a social order creates stability and as the word says: order. Fights only occur when younger individuals challenge existing leaders. That is why consistent guidance for dogs is so important.

To transfer this fact into a family with one or more dogs, we have to make sure, that we are the leaders over the dogs. I need to emphasize now that dogs feel happy and secure when the human shows himself as a guide. A good leader is kind, but firm when necessary and most of all extremely consistent, which means he consistently allows certain things or consistently does not tolerate certain things. A good leader knows what he expects from his followers, and therefore becomes a guide. The word leadership somehow has a meaning of dominance, whereas the word guidance to me tells in a kind and adequate way what is right and wrong.

The following sentence is one of the most important messages I want to leave you with:

Your dog will feel extremely comfortable when you show him clear daily rules, enforced with consistency so it always knows what to expect of you.

Showing clear limits never involves any physical dominance. There is no need to physically force a dog or to give unreasonable corrections. Being a strong fair leader will result in a healthy happy relationship.

So, before you start educating or training your dog, be very clear what you expect from him and vice versa what he can expect from you. For instance will you allow him on the couch ? If not, make sure you do not allow him on the couch at first attempt, and every time after, and very soon he won’t do it again. If your dog tries to jump on the couch the first time, gently lead him down along with a firm ‘no”, that is all it takes. If on the other hand you do allow your dog on the couch, you always have to allow him there, changing your mind every week will totally confuse your dog. That is what I mean by “consistency”, have clear expectations and always follow thru. At the beginning It will take some time with a puppy or a new dog, but will very soon pay off. Be aware that if you allow a certain habit, in the dogs mind it means that what worked one time can be repeated.

Let’s go thru some examples:

3.1. Jumping up on people:

Personally, I don’t believe in allowing any dog to jump up on people. There are several reasons why: Even though a puppy jumping up may look really cute, later on in life when matured this habit can develop into disrespectful and even dominant behaviour. Even the tiniest dog excitingly jumping up on you will never learn to stay calm when greeting. Matters worse, bigger dogs could knock over a person, a child or an elderly and cause harm. Any dog jumping up with dirty paws will be annoying to guests or yourself when you come home dressed up. Can you see how wrong it would be to then blame your dog? Therefor be always very clear on what you want to allow and what not and be consistent in enforcing it.

In general, it is quite easy to control this behaviour, especially with puppies. The simplest solution is to avoid paying any attention to a dog that jumps up. Turn around, walk away and don’t talk or touch, or even look at the dog. Any attention from your side will re-enforce the excited state the dog is in at this moment. As soon as the dog stays off, give calm attention, praise, maybe even give a treat. The dog will quickly learn that greeting people only happens when all paws are on the ground. Be cautious not to use the command “down”,, since this is meant for the dog to lie down. Be very consistent with all commands. Make sure that everybody who comes to your house is not responding to your dogs jumping up, prancing or barking. A good routine is to make the dog sit before greeting people. Doing this repeatedly your dog will gladly make the first choice to sit when greeting people.

An unhappy and useless solution would be to lock the dog away when people are coming. Isolating the dog from being with who he likes most could have a negative impact on his social behaviour.

3.2. Entering or leaving your house:

In the dog pack structure the leader always walks in front, the follower follows. We will cover this more when talking about the walk. I think it is a good habit to make sure you always go thru the doorway in front and before your dog. You can easily establish guidance this way. You will also avoid the bad habit of the dog bursting out the door. It is a good training method to make your dog sit and wait in front of the open door. Again, consistency is of utmost importance. The same applies to coming home. You want to be the first entering the house. You will instantly establish yourself as the pack leader, and you will avoid that the dog enters with dirty paws, or that he pushes over a child.

This exercise will very soon create a well-mannered dog. I would like to emphasize here that this applies to small dogs as well. Small dogs often show very bad behaviour, because owners don’t think it’s necessary to educate a small dog.

3.3. Begging for food

To me our dogs have no business around the dinner table. If you consistently never feed your dog from the table, he will never start to beg, or large dogs won’t lay their slobber mouth on the table. Teach everybody in your household, that giving your dog food from the table is off limits.

This has more advantages: Often our food contains salt and spices which are not good for our dogs, neither are any type of sugars. Further a dog should only get a treat when he shows proper behaviour. When you give him a treat, make him sit and patiently watch you, we will cover that more in depth in the chapter about feeding.

Be consistent in how and when you treat your dog with food.

Being consistent will pop up in my posts all the time, lol. I hope these three examples gave you an idea about the importance of being a steady guide for your dog.

3.4. Nudging for attention

Dogs seek our attention and in general we love giving attention back. But if a dog disrespectfully demands your attention, simply ignore it, and give attention on your own terms. Disrespectful would be; pushing, mounting, nudging with the nose, excessive barking and jumping. Remember that somehow you may tolerate and get used to these behaviours, but as soon as you have visitors, this can be very annoying. Sadly, the dogs will be blamed and negatively commented on, even though this is the owner’s responsibility.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Human Canine Relationship

The human canine relationship goes back more than 30,000 years. The origin of the domesticated dog  lays in the fact that some wolves had figured it out that with calm friendly behaviour around humans,they got rewarded with food. The genetics of these intelligent and brave individuals became the base of today’s dogs.

The human canine relationship is extremely deep. I am somewhat astonished and upset, that after 30,000 years still so many dogs end up in shelters or get euthanized, because owners simply don’t take the effort to educate themselves enough!

I think the biggest mistake many of us do, is to try to educate a dog like a human, to explain his behaviour by thinking like humans, instead of learning to think like a dog. It is imperative to educate ourselves, our family, children and friends simply everybody that comes in touch with our dog. A well-informed dog owner will have very little issues with his or her dog, he or she will have a well-behaved and happy dog, and these dogs most likely will not upset other people or other dogs. To get information about dog training and dog behaviour training is imperative.

The good news is, that there are only a few basics that you need to know, and if they are used consistently, you will have a wonderful and stress-free relationship with your dog. It truly becomes really fun and rewarding, once you start to understand your dog better.

Many of us spend a lot of time searching the web about nutrition, clothing, cars, child education, the list could go on and on. So let’s take the time now to learn more about our dogs!

Try to be easy and have an open mind. In my own experience I have seen equally men and women being too proud to admit their difficulties with their dog, blaming things on the dog and the circumstances and just not willing to learn a little more .

The following three basics are most important to know and to understand, and in the next few posts we’ll dive right into them:

1. Consistent Guidance

2. Understanding that dogs live in the moment

3. Learning your dogs body language

 

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About Jasmine

From right to left: Leon, Seena, myself, Remy and Lincoln on our farm in BC, Canada.

Hi everyone!

My name is Jasmine Sieber and I welcome you to Happy Dog Days,
where it’s all about creating a quality life for your dog(s) !

Animals are my passion and dogs are the ones I feel most connected to. For the past 30 years I’ve always been around a pack of dogs, studying their behavior and finding out what gives dogs the best quality life. My dogs are always around me among other house pets. To me it all starts with a solid commitment, and providing an environment where dogs can thrive and get the upmost care and nutrition possible.  I also love socializing my pets so  they respect each other and live together harmoniously.  Enjoy the knowledge that I have to share with you!

MY STORY ABOUT MY LIFE WITH DOGS

My mom used to raise St. Bernards as our family pets in Switzerland. I remember that she handled our giant dogs extremely well. At that time, hardly anybody was talking about dog behavior or any deeper understanding of the true canine nature.  I am forever thankful to my mom, for teaching me that love and commitment for our animals, keeping consistent rules, and providing lots of exercise, are vital for a lifelong bond between dogs and humans.

A dream came true when we moved to Canada and I got myself a beautiful male English Mastiff puppy. Large breed dogs have always fascinated me!  My husband and I opened a commercial goat dairy and took care of 300 goats. We were looking for a livestock protection dog for our goat herd and excitedly adopted our first Komondore.  A while later, the opportunity came up for an apricot female Mastiff. I couldn’t resist and soon after we planned our first Mastiff litter.  Over the years I’ve rescued St.Bernards, as well as ventured into Catahoulas, Cane Corsos and Pointers. Our dogs live in the house with the family and have learned to respect our cats, chickens in the yard, and the horses in the field. I thoroughly studied their body language and took courses in animal behaviour. I loved the challenge to socialize our Catahoula puppy with our cats and chickens, since that breed is known to have heavy hunting and chasing instincts. Today he is the most gentle of all my dogs and enjoys being best friends with all our family pets.

My first Mastiff litter more than 20 years ago. My baby daughter in the back.

WHY DO WE LOVE OUR DOGS SO MUCH ?

The relationship between our dogs and us is one of the most satisfying of all. A dog’s love is unconditional. Their adaptiveness is unsurpassed. Dogs are always honest and their loyalty is beyond anything humans can offer. From the  bottom of my heart, I wish for every canine on this planet, to have a loving, committed owner, that knows how to be passionate and committed to care for his best companion! To be in a happy dog place.

THE VERY BEST LIVE FOR YOUR DOG

Dogs are sentient beings with feelings and emotions. Every single dog in this world deserves a committed owner. Too often, behavior problems arise because people decide to get themselves a striking looking dog, without truly understanding its nature. My goal is to help you realize your dog’s needs, so you can live a quality life together with a deep bond based on respect and trust. My interest is to prove that you can achieve harmony between all family members and your dog, as well as harmony with other pets in your house hold. I am sure you understand me when I say that dogs have the capacity to teach us timeless, unconditional love by simply being here beside us. Their presence is always meaningful and full-filling.

If you have questions, feel free to leave them below or email me direct: jasmine@jasminesieber.com

All the best,

Jasmine Sieber

Founder of HappyDogDays

 

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